The EFT Healing Centre Blog
February 16, 2011
Last week in my blog post, I was considering what it meant to be the “best”, and how we knew when we’d accomplished it. I suggested that rather than it being about receiving acknowledgement, perhaps it was more to do with being completely connected to who we are, and what we are doing in that moment.
My client had been supervising a group of students and consistently drew a blank, having very little to contribute to the discussion. Deep down, he knew the information well but perhaps because there was a level of expectation upon him, no thoughts would come.
He’d previously told me that he was driven to be the best in all situations, yet he was fully aware that the “best”, whatever that was, was unattainable. All this left him filled with dread and anxiety.
I asked him when he believed he had been at this best in the past. His face lit up and it was easy for him to recollect – it was a time in his life when he was doing what he wanted to do; a time when he had something to say that he was passionate about; a time when he “felt alive”.
The passion he felt for what he was doing was far greater than any fear he had about what he was doing.
Did he receive applause and praise for what he was doing? Yes! And did that feel great? Yes! But what he remembers more than any of that external stimulus was how much he loved life at that time, and how invigorated he was.
To me, that is someone living at their best, thriving, and positively affecting the lives of others around them.
The next time you hear your self-criticism playing, take a moment to recall when you last felt really passionate about what you were doing – when you felt alive – and notice the change in your physiology as you remember what that was like. It will completely shift your vibration.
Then you can begin to recreate that wonderful experience of being at your best all over again in the present time.
February 10, 2011
When someone is put on a pedestal, and praised and congratulated for doing something, this can feel amazing. The downside of this is he may need to live up to that again, and again – especially if he is encouraged that doing whatever it was showed him at his “best”. It’s a downside because if he can’t live up to that consistently, the praise may diminish, the adulation stops, and the criticisms/comparisons can start.
Do you ever think, “I must be the smartest/funniest/slimmest/wealthiest/most successful…I must be the best“?
That thought is often followed by, “but I’ll never make it”. It’s as though it’s a glass ceiling that stretches upwards and is never attainable.
But what is the best?
Are we really the best because of the response we get: praise, acclaim, applause? Or is it more about feeling the best in our core – being completely connected to who we are, and what we are doing in that moment.
It’s my belief that when we are completely present, and in alignment with our integrity, we are automatically resonated at a level which is our best naturally and effortlessly.
Take a pen and notebook, and write about a time when you were doing what you loved, felt completely connected to what you were doing, and felt real joy and purpose.
How did it feel? What did you see and hear? What were you thinking? Were there any feelings of reservation?
Are you able to create that sensation again?
Is it possible that in that moment, you were being your best? And doesn’t the world deserve to see the person you were in that moment even more (not someone battling to accomplish the unattainable, frustrated and overwhelmed)?
In Part 2, I’ll talk about how my client realized what the “best” was for him.