The EFT Healing Centre Blog
April 4, 2012
Do you sometimes find yourself feeling squeezed for time as you whirl around from one chore to another trying to accomplish everything you need to do? Does that leave you with no time for you? If you’re nodding your head it’s time to step out of the time squeeze machine and step into the ME time machine.
I was working with one of my EFT clients recently and she was telling me about all the things she had to do in her life. The topic of breathing came up, and I asked her to take a breath in that moment. She told me it was very shallow. We immediately tapped on her being so busy that she couldn’t possibly take the time to breathe. Of course, this opened up a discussion, and much tapping and Matrix Re-imprinting around why she felt so squeezed in her life, why she was so busy, and why she avoided time for herself.
Because of old programming, and the “frantic energy” in which she grew up, there appeared to be no other way of moving through life. It wasn’t safe for her to spend time looking after herself and focusing on her needs; she had to stay vigilant, anticipate and prepare.
I am observing that one of my patterns is to over-extend myself and assume I have more time than I do in reality. That leaves me feeling very squeezed and uncomfortable!
If this is a familiar pattern for you, then I hope you find this month’s tapping transcript useful.
If you are new to EFT, click on tapping points to view a map of the meridian points.
Even though I’m feeling squeezed for time, I want to accept myself anyway because I’m doing my best
Even though I feel pressurized to complete everything, I want to accept who I am and how I’m feeling
Even though I don’t have the time to breathe because life is so busy, I choose to feel safe enough to breathe deeply and expansively, because I know I can
Head: I’m feeling squeezed for time
Eyebrow: there’s so much to do
Side of eye: I’ve over-extended myself again
Under eye: and I don’t have enough time to do it all
Under nose: I feel so pressurized
Chin: and this is very uncomfortable
Collarbone: so I’m starting to wonder what could happen if I felt safe enough to take a breath
Under arm: and then another one
Liver: in a very calm, and easy, way
Wrists: just allowing the breath to flow
Head: I’ve decided to focus on my breath for a moment
Eyebrow: and the more I focus on my breath
Side of eye: the more expansive I feel
Under eye: and the less squeezed I feel
Under nose: and the more I’m open to letting go
Chin: of all the ‘musts’, ‘shoulds’, and ‘have tos’
Collarbone: It feels unfamiliar to focus on me
Under arm: and yet I’m finding it surprisingly energising!
Liver: Now I’ve allowed myself some time for me
Wrists: I feel calm, confident, spacious, and ready to move forward.
Now close your eyes and take a deep but comfortable breath. You might need to repeat this process or feel free to change the wording so it applies to how you really feel. The phrases you use are simply a way of outwardly expressing how you’re feeling. You don’t need to be creative or get hung up on finding the “perfect” wording – just state what’s on your mind.
February 8, 2012
Self love. Intriguing. What comes to mind?
Do any of these statements sound familiar:
‘With everything going on, my needs didn’t seem to matter’
‘I’m not used to focusing on myself – it seems selfish’
‘I’ve always put my family first because that’s what my mother did’
If any of these comments resonate for you, you’re not alone. It’s ingrained within us to look after others first and put ourselves second, because that’s the ‘right thing to do’. To consider our needs for a moment may appear selfish.
So with Valentine’s Day around the corner, and thoughts of love, relationships, connectedness and acknowledgement of another for the joy they bring you, where is the acknowledgement of yourself? Where is the self love?
It’s easy to put the focus on others. We may consider someone’s needs and push ourselves to look after their needs, forgetting about our own needs in the process. Or we may compare ourselves to someone else’s successes and fixate on what they’re accomplishing, or what they have.
All this keeps us very small, unfulfilled and disconnected from ourselves. How can we stay true to ourselves and our needs when we are constantly focusing outwards?
If there is any resistance coming up for you as you read this, any thoughts of how selfish it would be to think of yourself, then I encourage you to consider how you can prioritize yourself as much as them. What would it take to give yourself as much time as you give them? What would that feel like?
Write down any thoughts or feelings coming up for you right now, and then use the following tapping transcript to ease you into a little more self love:
Even though I’m not used to considering MY needs, I want to accept myself anyway
Even though I’ve always put their needs first, I’m open to the possibility that my needs are just as important so I’m willing to take a moment to think about what I need
Even though it’s selfish to think about my needs, I’m ready to forgive myself for the conflict I’m experiencing now
Head: I’ve always put them first
Eyebrow: it seemed right to do that
Side of eye: I didn’t even consider what I needed
Under eye: that would have been selfish
Under nose: I’ve given so much to them
Chin: and I forgot about me
Collarbone: and now seems like the perfect time to change this
Under arm: I deserve to feel safe enough to prioritise myself alongside them
Liver: I am ready to support myself the way that I’ve supported them
Wrists: It’s time to re-connect with me, and what I need, and that feels right in this moment.
Take a moment to write down any thoughts or feelings that came up as you tapped, and then tap on those for deeper resolution.
January 4, 2012
Happy New Year to you! How is your 2012 so far? What commitments have you made for the year ahead? What changes will take place in your life this year? And what are you doing about being more YOU?
Allow me to explain.
At the beginning of a new year, a lot of advice is flying around … how you can look different; how you can feel different; what you can accomplish; how successful you can be in various areas of your life, and … and …
Ugh! Even considering all of that de-energizes me and jangles my nervous system!
In the past, I felt a heavy burden in the New Year to accomplish, to succeed, to change. I ended up overwhelmed and overstretched. I expected way too much of myself, I set unrealistic goals, and I slipped into procrastination.
Does that pattern sound familiar to you?
When I’m mentoring my students, I encourage them to stretch themselves, to the point of feeling uncomfortable, but there needs to be a balance. When we’re only focused on where we need to go, it’s easy to overlook where we’ve already been and what’s already been accomplished.
Perhaps we should spend a little bit of time on simply “being more YOU!”
In our zeal to grow we sometimes forget what it is that we are growing – it is the fundamental core of who we are, that which sets us apart from others, that which defines our values, that which gifts each of us with a YOUniqueness. There is plenty of good there, some of it coaxed, some of it instilled, some still hidden waiting for your approval.
This year, rather than only focusing on who you could be and what needs to change, I encourage you to spend time considering how you can be more YOU, and who you are already.
Take a moment to consider these questions:
1. This year, how can I be even more me (not who they want me to be; not who I think I ‘should’ be)?
2. What are the skills and gifts I possess which naturally attract people to me?
3. What will it take for me to be completely authentic in any given moment?
When you have your answers, notice any limiting beliefs or negative self talk which arises, and use EFT on those dis-empowering thoughts.
Honour who you are by being more you this year. Celebrate your gifts and strengths. Respect yourself for what you have to offer the world and the world will respond in kind.
September 9, 2011
The simple act of clearing clutter from your environment can bring balance into your life.
Recently, I recorded a podcast with Scott on Clearing the Clutter and what causes the clutter in the first place.
Clutter has different levels: from general mess and disorganization in the home, office or car, to an unwillingness to throw away things, to not clearing up after yourself, and a messy appearance, to complete chaos. The final level is usually when the person feels unable to do anything about the situation, and is frozen.
Whenever I get really busy, my office becomes the place in which everything piles up: post-it notes everywhere, piles of hand written notes, and to do lists. This sucks my energy and I know it actually slows down the way I work. On the plus side, I have a visual of what needs to be done in front of me, so there’s a sense of being ‘in control’.
Did you know that most usually, clutter is a control issue?
Being unwilling to let go of ‘stuff’ is a way for someone to feel in control of at least a part of their life, although to an observer, it could appear as though they are totally out of control.
And this is where EFT comes in.
Clutter is the symptom, as is the loss of control, or fears around letting go of the ‘stuff’, so we need to get to the underlying cause and neutralize that.
With EFT, we can go back to the beginning, and determine the time when the person started to feel a loss of control, or power, and tap around that time.
So, if you know you are hoarding things and you want to feel a sense of freedom do the following:
- Consider a time or series of events in the past when you felt powerless, traumatized, or fearful – a time in which you felt like you had no control.
- Give that time a title and notice how your body feels as you recall it, and what the intensity level is (SUDs).
- Tap on that time until you feel you have released all the negative emotions associated with it, and you feel neutral about what happened.
- Then focus on the current clutter in your life and if any fears come up around letting go of the ‘stuff’ then tap on those fears.
- Then decide on what it is that you want: how do you want your home/office/car/appearance to look? Write it down.
- Consider how you’d feel when you have what you want. Really get specific, so rather than “I’d feel happy”, how about “free, exhilarated, determined, motivated” and so on. Write down your answers.
- Now think about how your life would be different when you have what you want: What would you be able to accomplish? How would you perceive the world? Write down all the answers that come up for you.
- Read aloud what you’ve written down and notice any body responses as you hear your words, and especially notice any tail-enders that come up. For example, “that would never happen because…”, or “the last time I lived my life like that, this negative event happened…”.
- Then tap on all those things standing in your way, blocking you from living a clutter-free life.
- When you have neutralized those, read through your statement again and notice if anything comes up which could impede your success and tap away those remaining tail-enders.
Now you are free to start enjoying a life free of clutter!
May 20, 2011
Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you simply can’t relate to the people around you or what they’re saying, and you feel completely misunderstood? Perhaps that’s how you feel on a daily basis within your family, or when you’re at work.
From the email feedback I received after my complimentary teleclass last week, “Celebrating the Highly Sensitive Personality”, this seemed to be a common way to feel.
During the teleclass, we talked about and tapped on what it’s like to not fit in and feel unaccepted because other people don’t “get” us. We dissolved the sadness surrounding all this, and celebrated our ability to feel deeply and listen to, and trust, our intuition.
For as long as I can remember I’ve felt like a square peg in a round hole. Through using EFT I now recognise this as a unique gift which allows me to see the world from a different perspective and I hope, use that different perspective to reframe situations for my clients.
The following tapping transcript incorporates some of the thoughts shared on the teleclass which may be helpful to you.
Top of head: I don’t fit in
Eyebrow: People don’t understand me
Side of eye: Just because I feel things so deeply
Under eye: they think something’s wrong with me
Under nose: They just don’t get me
Chin: I’m hurting because of this
Collarbone: and I end up criticising myself
Under arm: Maybe there is something wrong with me
Top of head: No, there isn’t!
Eyebrow: There is something very right with me!
Side of eye: It’s right that I care about things this much
Under eye: It’s good I feel so deeply
Under nose: I want to appreciate these parts of me
Chin: and acknowledge them as gifts
Collarbone: Because I’m so intuitive
Under arm: others will benefit from my strengths
Now close your eyes and take a deep but comfortable breath. You might need to repeat this process or feel free to change the wording so it applies to how you really feel. The phrases you use are simply a way of outwardly expressing how you’re feeling. You don’t need to be creative or get hung up on finding the “perfect” wording – just state what’s on your min
March 6, 2011
The work I do with many of my clients involves connecting to the inner child, honouring her, and speaking up for her.
At the end of an EFT session recently, when my client had been connecting to her little one, I asked her if she would consider writing a poem through the eyes of her inner child about a particular memory.
She agreed and what she emailed me was so beautiful that I asked her if I could share it on my blog, and she agreed!
Ecstasy in the cloudburst
(as we all walk back to the bank after our lunch break around the table of grandma)
hot summer day filled with
the excitement of the shower in preparation
hot soil
hot concrete
hot air
huge, fat, warm drops
tapping on our heads, noses and lips
then the sudden outburst of the clouds,
down pouring warm water
barefoot in the puddles
freely chasing fun in the warm
water swelling and running then overflowing at the
sidewalk bricks
it is not a shower, not a downpour
it is a cloudburst!
howling, screaming in ecstasy,
running from growing puddles to puddles
overflowing everything
enjoy the touch of the warm flow of fresh, exalted water
on our hair and skin
we all are in bikinis, swimming suits on the streets
the touch of the mixture of sensations,
thunderbolts and lightening
the frenetic sound, majestic noise
of downpour – as the water is hitting the leaves, the concrete
and anything,
the gentle but powerful twinkling on our sole and feet while
devouring the strokes of hot water splashes
and the touch of the soft warm concrete
the visual marvel of the dancing, fluctuating water-curtains
fluid water-walls
the sparks in our eyes
the laughter of overflowing joy and
the absolute freedom of the moment
I secretly enjoy something else as well
now we all resonate together – adults and children -
we all are drunk with joy
upheld by the skin of Mother Earth beneath
soaked by the warmth of watery strokes of Father Heaven above
exalted by the magnificent cosmic concert grandioso
convinced once again that Nature is above human (the un-awakened)
secretly in admiration to Her I bow
Kripamaya
February 16, 2011
Last week in my blog post, I was considering what it meant to be the “best”, and how we knew when we’d accomplished it. I suggested that rather than it being about receiving acknowledgement, perhaps it was more to do with being completely connected to who we are, and what we are doing in that moment.
My client had been supervising a group of students and consistently drew a blank, having very little to contribute to the discussion. Deep down, he knew the information well but perhaps because there was a level of expectation upon him, no thoughts would come.
He’d previously told me that he was driven to be the best in all situations, yet he was fully aware that the “best”, whatever that was, was unattainable. All this left him filled with dread and anxiety.
I asked him when he believed he had been at this best in the past. His face lit up and it was easy for him to recollect – it was a time in his life when he was doing what he wanted to do; a time when he had something to say that he was passionate about; a time when he “felt alive”.
The passion he felt for what he was doing was far greater than any fear he had about what he was doing.
Did he receive applause and praise for what he was doing? Yes! And did that feel great? Yes! But what he remembers more than any of that external stimulus was how much he loved life at that time, and how invigorated he was.
To me, that is someone living at their best, thriving, and positively affecting the lives of others around them.
The next time you hear your self-criticism playing, take a moment to recall when you last felt really passionate about what you were doing – when you felt alive – and notice the change in your physiology as you remember what that was like. It will completely shift your vibration.
Then you can begin to recreate that wonderful experience of being at your best all over again in the present time.
February 10, 2011
When someone is put on a pedestal, and praised and congratulated for doing something, this can feel amazing. The downside of this is he may need to live up to that again, and again – especially if he is encouraged that doing whatever it was showed him at his “best”. It’s a downside because if he can’t live up to that consistently, the praise may diminish, the adulation stops, and the criticisms/comparisons can start.
Do you ever think, “I must be the smartest/funniest/slimmest/wealthiest/most successful…I must be the best“?
That thought is often followed by, “but I’ll never make it”. It’s as though it’s a glass ceiling that stretches upwards and is never attainable.
But what is the best?
Are we really the best because of the response we get: praise, acclaim, applause? Or is it more about feeling the best in our core – being completely connected to who we are, and what we are doing in that moment.
It’s my belief that when we are completely present, and in alignment with our integrity, we are automatically resonated at a level which is our best naturally and effortlessly.
Take a pen and notebook, and write about a time when you were doing what you loved, felt completely connected to what you were doing, and felt real joy and purpose.
How did it feel? What did you see and hear? What were you thinking? Were there any feelings of reservation?
Are you able to create that sensation again?
Is it possible that in that moment, you were being your best? And doesn’t the world deserve to see the person you were in that moment even more (not someone battling to accomplish the unattainable, frustrated and overwhelmed)?
In Part 2, I’ll talk about how my client realized what the “best” was for him.
February 6, 2011
As many of you know, last year I held the first EFT Gathering in Canada, and we had speakers from Canada and America. It was a fabulous success – a wonderful opportunity for EFT’ers to meet, network, share successes, and create a much needed community here.
One of the presentations was given by my good friends Alina Frank and Craig Weiner from Washington State.
Alina wanted to forge a similar community in Seattle, and she will be!
On Saturday February 26th, the first Washington EFT Tappers Gathering is taking place in Seattle, and I’ll be one of the speakers!
Here’s what Alina says:
“This all day event will feature the top Emotional Freedom Techniques practitioners from the state sharing their wisdom and expert knowledge in their various specialities. Learn new techniques, share your own healing stories, and help us forge a real community here in Washington.”
There will be presentations on EFT for relationships, children, setting bourndaries and illness, EFT and effective self-talk, and EFT and the Energy Sweep.
And best of all, you don’t have to live in Washington State to attend!
Please see the details for the event here
I’m looking forward to seeing you there!
warm wishes,
Annabel
December 13, 2010
Feeling overwhelmed as Christmas approaches?
Is there too much to do, and not enough time?
Tap away your anxieties so that you can begin to enjoy each moment, and be fully present!
Take a moment to tap along to my video and dissolve all those holiday stressors, so you can clear the way for attracting what you want and deserve during the next few weeks.
Watch my video EFT Tapping on Christmas Overwhelm
Give your loved ones the gift of EFT this Christmas!
What better way to help them release old patterns, and feel motivated and focused as they start the New Year than to give them an EFT gift certificate
My eBook, “Tap Into Your Healthy Self! Recognize the Potential Within You to Heal” offers an in depth look at the secondary gains for staying where we are, and the powerful fears of change which keep us stuck. There are tapping transcripts for you to tap along to.
warm wishes,
Annabel