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August 16, 2010
When I was very seriously ill, there were days when I was focused on all the symptoms I had, what I couldn’t do and how dreadful my life was. Yet as soon as I remembered a supportive comment from a friend, thought about how a specific symptom had reduced, or took time to enjoy the view of the garden from my bed, I realized there was much to feel grateful for in my life. In essence, what I was doing was changing my vibration: the more I noticed the blessingss in my life, the more abundant my life became. No matter how insignificant something seemed (like watching a bird take a bath in the garden) I decided to enjoy and appreciate it. I believe the Universe heard my changing vibration and acted upon it.
We can use EFT to change our vibration, too. With EFT, it’s possible to identify the vibration blocking our progress, neutralize and clear the way for appreciation and gratitude. What could be more uplifting than focusing on what’s right with our lives!
EFT Statements
If you are new to EFT, please click here to view the tapping points.
With your dominant hand, tap the karate chop point on the other hand while saying the following:
Even though I’m focusing on what’s going wrong with my life right now, I accept who I am and how I’m feeling
Even though I’m frustrated and disappointed because things are always going wrong, perhaps I could notice some of the good things in my life and raise my vibration
Even though it’s really difficult to be grateful at the moment, I choose to accept myself and appreciate many aspects of my life
Now tap the following places while saying each of the phrases below.
Top of the head: I keep focusing on what’s going wrong
Eyebrow: I feel frustrated and disappointed
Side of the eye: I don’t want to be positive about this
Under the eye: but I don’t want to focus on the negative all the time, either
Under the nose: I don’t have the right vibration
Chin: and that makes me more anxious
Under the arm: and it’s really hard to change
Top of the head: I want to change my vibration
Eyebrow: perhaps I could!
Side of the eye: maybe I am ready to notice some good things in my life
Under the eye: I choose to appreciate what is right with my life
Under the nose: I am open to acknowledging all the abundance in my life
Chin: I am loving this shift in my vibration!
Collarbone: I am grateful for the blessings in my life
Under the arm: I appreciate so much more about my life now
Now close your eyes and take a deep but comfortable breath. You might need to repeat this process or feel free to change the wording so it applies to how you really feel.
July 20, 2010
When I was interviewed for the Inner Healing Compass teleseminar series, I talked about how setting healthy boundaries can prevent long term physical pain and illness. I’ve considered this a lot lately, because it seems that most of the work I do with clients is based around feeling safe enough to set boundaries and avoid compromise.
My client felt compromised and the result was that her allergies flared up
I did an emergency EFT session with a client a few weeks ago. Her allergies had flared up and she’d experienced a migraine. She had guests staying in the house and she was highly sensitive to their clothes due to the laundry detergent they used, amongst other things.
After asking her a few questions, it became obvious that she felt extremely compromised and pressurised because of the guests in her house. She felt she had to be an attentive hostess, fun and energetic, and confessed she didn’t enjoy people staying in their house. In fact, she didn’t want people in the house at all.
She was exhausted and frustrated. No wonder her body was expressing its discontent in the form of allergic reactions.
Set boundaries before your body has to set them for you
For the sake of our health, it’s important to learn how to set boundaries; otherwise, if we continue to compromise what we want and need, it comes down to our body to do it for us – usually in the form of chronic pain, or potentially serious symptoms.
Through using EFT with my client, she was able to tap away the frustrations she felt, and the anxiety about future guests staying with them later in the summer. She decided – easily – that she would ask the next people coming to see them to stay in a local hotel. She felt relieved, and empowered. It felt right to create boundaries which supported her.
Tap away your anxieties, or resistance, about looking after yourself
If you like the idea of this, but you’re thinking, “Well, I could never do that. What would they think of me? It’s easier to compromise”, you may find the following tapping transcript helpful.
If you are unfamiliar with the EFT tapping points, please refer to the diagram here.
Tap the karate chop point on the other hand while saying the following:
Even though I’m afraid I’ll offend them, what if I don’t?
Even though they may not like it, I deserve to consider what I need
Even though I feel uncomfortable setting boundaries and honouring myself, I’m willing to do my best anyway
Now tap the following places while saying each of the phrases below:
Top of head: I want to set some boundaries
Eyebrow: but it all feels so different and uncomfortable
Side of eye: this could change everything
Under eye: and I’m not sure I want to risk that
Under nose: what if I upset her?
Chin: what if I don’t?
Collarbone: what if it fulfills her needs, too
Under arm: because then she’ll know what to expect?
Liver: I’m open to the possibility that this could work for both of us
Wrists: and our relationship will be even easier, more respectful, and more enjoyable as a result.
After you have tapped through this round, write down how you’re feeling and any new thoughts which have come up, then tap again, changing the wording if you need to. Remember, the phrases you use are simply a way of outwardly expressing how you’re feeling. You don’t need to be creative – just state what’s on your mind and tap through the points.
June 9, 2010
With such a wealth of EFT resources out there on the Internet nowadays, it’s relatively easy to find the information we’re looking for – and all at no cost to you. Google “EFT” plus whatever you need help with, and you’ll usually find articles, videos, and who knows what else to guide you in some direction.
Log into YouTube and there’s a plethora of “How-to” videos from chronic pain to stress and overwhelm. You’ll be able to tap along for nine minutes. You may even feel a certain amount of relief.
But what if your beliefs, memories, or emotions are a little more deeply rooted than nine minutes worth of tapping? Where do you go then? Who is there to offer guidance, skilfully reframe the experience, and use those reframes in a focussed way as you tap?
When I was a child growing up in the UK, my parents would take me on holiday to Cornwall. Cornwall is renowned for its fudge, and we would always go to the same fudge shop, where Dad would treat me to a bag of fudge. The best part of the whole experience was the fact I was able to taste a tiny square of as many fudges as I liked before narrowing my choices down and making the all-important decision of what flavour to choose!
The outcome? I was usually overwhelmed by the choices. There were too many to choose from and I didn’t get to sample enough of each one to really decide which one I preferred. I often left wishing I’d chosen a different flavour after all. I was unfulfilled.
Now, going back to EFT, my concern is: by “taste testing” all the EFT goodies which are on offer out there in bite sized pieces - usually for free – we may not be experiencing the complete relief we’re searching for, and then there is a tendency to assume “EFT isn’t working”.
I know EFT works when we use it on ourselves because my clients have great results when they tap on themselves, and because I healed myself of serious Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) by using EFT on myself daily.
I also know EFT works even more successfully and permanently when someone else is facilitating because my clients tell me they have far better results when they tap with me, and because I have far better results when I tap with experienced EFT Practitioners.
Working with an experienced EFT’er is priceless because they can offer a perspective which is missing when we use EFT on ourselves: in a short period of time, an experienced EFT’er can identify a core issue, all the aspects, and all the sabotage at play because they will know what questions to ask and how to lead the process. If we are trying to sort through all of that on our own, it’s often difficult to “see the wood for the trees”. It’s hard to be objective when we are so involved.
So, if you are finding all those free resources enticing, and you’re tapping away quite happily on your own, that is fantastic. If you’re not getting the results you were hoping for, you may pause to consider how quickly you could get the results if you were to work with an experienced tapper.
In the meantime, some of the following could be useful when considering how to ensure EFT is working for you:
- Do I really want to let go of this [weight, illness, relationship, job, anger, guilt, etc.]?
Consider the benefits of holding on to whatever is consciously holding you back – don’t forget, your subconscious always has a different agenda! - Am I dehydrated?
Always ensure you are drinking water when tapping. - Am I being specific enough?
Most often, newcomers to EFT are pretty global with their statements, e.g. “Even though I have low self esteem”, or “Even though I have arthritis”. Be as specific as possible about events, places, feelings, etc., and you’ll get results faster. - Are there toxins in my environment?
This can be anything from carpets, to laundry detergent, to a cell phone, and they can stop the EFT process from working. - Am I switching aspects?
As we tap, the issue reduces in intensity, and this can make space for a deeper underlying issue to come up with a high intensity. It’s important to be able to distinguish between the first and second issues as separate aspects. Both deserve our tapping attention – they are not the same issue.
May 12, 2010
Do you find yourself putting others first no matter the cost to yourself?
Is it common for you to disregard your own needs?
Are you often berating yourself because you could have done better this time?
Do the words “should”, “must” and “have to” come up in your daily thoughts?
If you answered ‘yes’, then perhaps it’s time to treat YOU with as much kindness as you’d treat your loved ones, family or friends!
I was working with a new client last week, and as we tapped on the set up, I asked her to repeat, “Even though all of what I’ve said could be true, I’m willing to treat myself with a little more kindness”. She couldn’t say those words. Her throat closed up and the words were stuffed down. She admitted she had never considered the concept of treating herself with kindness.
It’s often easy to treat those around us with kindness and look out for their needs, yet at the same time, we forget about how we deserve to be treated.
So how do you deserve to be treated?
Consider your answer for a moment. Then ask yourself, ‘Am I treating myself in this way?”
Chances are, you believe you could be __________, should still be ____________, you’re too ____________, or you’re not ___________ enough.
Tapping on this…
- Start by acknowledging whatever just came up, e.g.
“Even though I’m too sensitive”, or
“Even though I’m still in an unfulfilling job” or
“Even though I’m not pretty enough”
and complete the set up with
“…I’m willing to treat myself with a little more kindness anyway”.
- Notice the emotion that arises when you say this second part.
Is it hard to say?
Have you ever considered such a concept?
Does it feel uncomfortable thinking of being kind to yourself, of all people?
- Then tap on how saying “…I’m willing to treat myself with a little more kindness anyway” makes you feel, e.g.,
“Even though it’s hard for me to treat myself with kindness, I’m open to the possibility I could”, or
“Even though I don’t deserve to treat myself with kindness because of what I did/said, I accept the part of me which believes this to be true”.
- Notice the language you use; your ’self-talk’. Your body listens and holds on to such messages. Each time you hear yourself criticising something you’ve done or haven’t done, or putting yourself down in some way, tap the karate chop point, and say, “I’m willing to treat myself with a little more kindness anyway”. Then notice how much lighter you feel!
I’d love to hear your results! Please comment below on how well this technique worked for you.
April 21, 2010
I’ve spent the last year becoming really focused on where I want my business, and my personal life, to be heading. I’ve become very clear about what I want to accomplish in both areas of my life. If I make a mistake, I’m able to let go; I don’t beat myself up over what hasn’t worked.
Believe me, this has taken time, and a lot of tapping! It hasn’t been easy to let go of old patterns, limiting beliefs and the inevitable overwhelm I usually found myself to be in.
Over the last few weeks, I’ve worked with a number of clients, helping them set out and accomplish their vision. I’ve noticed a common theme: when we’re in fear, it’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, what isn’t working and what doesn’t bring us joy.
In fact, we are so focused on these areas that we lose sight of what we could accomplish, where we want to be, and of what we are capable. We also lose the potential to feel the joy and vibrancy within us, instead feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and disheartened.
Following my article and tapping transcript in last month’s newsletter on becoming focused, this month I thought it would be beneficial to take this one step further. Below is a technique I use with my clients when they want to accomplish something, yet know there are hidden saboteurs at play. It’s a great way to become clear, and raise your vibration, because you’ll be directing your attention towards what you want, how it will make you feel, and how your life will be different as a result of achieving this goal.
- First, write down what it is that you really want. Ensure you write in the positive, e.g., “I want to be healthy”, instead of “I don’t want to be sick anymore”.
- Next, write down how you will feel once you have achieved your goal. Take a moment to connect to those feelings and be as expressive as you can. Rather than “I’ll feel good”, consider “I’ll feel fantastic, free, safe, energized, etc.”
- Finally, write down how your life will be different when you have what you want.
- Then, read aloud the statement you have written down. As you hear your words, consider the believability of this outcome. If you feel a real connection to what you’ve written, and it all seems very believable, then assign it a ‘10′. If it seems completely unbelievable, then assign it a ‘0′, or give it a number in between to reflect how believable you find the statement to be.
- If your number is below a ‘10′ (which it probably is, otherwise you would have already achieved whatever it is that you want), then consider what is stopping it being a ‘10′. What are you resisting? What are the saboteurs? Why are you afraid of accomplishing this vision?
- Whatever answers you come up with, assign each one an intensity rating, and tap away the resistance with EFT.
- When you have done this, go back and re-read your statement and rate the believability again. The goal is to reach a ‘10′, so if you’re not quite there, tap on any remaining resistance to completely owning what you want.
I’d love to hear your results! Please comment below on how well this technique worked for you.
April 12, 2010
Something that came up a couple of times during the course of last month’s EFT workshops was the need to be focused. It’s easy for our minds to become distracted, particularly when there’s a lot to think about – like being in a new learning environment, supervised, and wanting to do our best, or even be perfect (!) – or a lot to accomplish in a short period of time.
When I know I have a lot to do and I’m unsure which task to do first because they all seem important, I use the NLP technique of chunking down. After taking a deep breath and centering myself, I ask myself the question, “what can I do in the next minute?” Then I write down my answer(s). Next, “what can I do in the next hour?” and I write down the answer(s) to that. Then, “what can I do in the next four hours?” and so on with day, week, month. That way, the urgent and important tasks become structured sensibly and easily in my mind.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed and scattered, try the technique above and then use the following tapping transcript.
With your dominant hand, tap the karate chop point on the other hand while saying the following:
Even though I really want to be focused, I feel so scattered and I’ve decided to accept myself anyway
Even though there’s so much to do and my mind is distracted, I deserve to feel calm and confident instead
Even though when I lose focus, I become overwhelmed, I’m willing to treat myself with a little kindness because of this
Now tap the following places while saying each of the phrases below.
Top of the head: I need to be focused
Eyebrow: there’s so much to do
Side of the eye: I need to think clearly
Under the eye: and I feel scattered and overwhelmed
Under the nose: and this is getting me nowhere!
Chin: I wonder what would happen if I were to take this minute-by-minute?
Collarbone: perhaps it will be easy to focus on what I can do in the next minute
Under the arm: and when I’ve accomplished that task
Liver: I’ll focus on what I can do in the next hour
Wrists: and I’m ready to accept that this could become surprisingly easy!
Now close your eyes and take a deep but comfortable breath. You might need to repeat this process or feel free to change the wording so it applies to how you really feel. The phrases you use are simply a way of outwardly expressing how you’re feeling. You don’t need to be creative or get hung up on finding the “perfect” wording – just state what’s on your mind.
I’d love to hear your results from using this tapping transcript! Please comment below on the results you got from using this tapping transcript.
April 5, 2010
We’re more than three months into 2010, so how are those New Year’s Resolutions going? It’s easy to start a new year determined and committed to accomplishing our goals. Yet it often seems not to take very long before the goal seems like too much hard work, or we lose interest, or we can’t find the time to follow through. Rather than feeling excitement or joy about the resolution, we start to resent it: it is something horrible we have to do.
The best way to approach resolutions is to consider how your life will be different once you have accomplished your goal. Why do you want this goal and how will you feel once you have achieved it? Moreover, how will your life be different when the goal has been accomplished?
Below is a tapping transcript for you to shake up all that resistance to changing and moving forward towards your goal. There may be secondary benefits to staying where you are now, and EFT can clear those.
With your dominant hand, tap the karate chop point on the other hand while saying the following:
Now close your eyes and take a deep but comfortable breath. You might need to repeat this process or feel free to change the wording so it applies to how you really feel. The phrases you use are simply a way of outwardly expressing how you’re feeling. You don’t need to be creative or get hung up on find the “perfect” wording – just state what’s on your mind.
I’d love to hear your results from using this tapping transcript! Please comment below on the results you got from using this tapping transcript.